I Just Want To Be With You

By Kathi Pelton

It’s simple! As believers we often make the most simple things complex and convoluted— such as intimacy.

Did you know that intimacy with Jesus is that deep familiarity and shared affection that we have with those who we love to share our lives with the most? It is being together, talking together and even just resting quietly together.

So much of our Christian lives are surrounded by strategies, training, equipping and the thing that we need to do next. I am not suggesting that those things are bad, but I think we can wrongly take that mindset into the simplicity of intimacy and relationship with Jesus— often damaging true friendship and joy.

I once had a dear friend that was incredibly gifted in the prophetic. I worked closely with her but found it difficult to form a close relationship. We’d often meet for coffee and I would always begin our time with a hug and questions about her family, her personal life and her heart. She honestly had no desire to talk about those things and would give me short and shallow answers immediately followed by asking me, “What is the Spirit saying to you! What are you getting prophetically?”

I appreciated her desire to hear the Lord and to partner with what others were hearing but I wanted more than her gift and I wanted to give her more than my spiritual gift— I desired her friendship and a deeper connection of hearts.

I often wonder if God feels this way when we sit down to talk with him? Are we coming to get information or to nurture intimacy? I have been guilty many times of coming to “hear revelation” rather than to enter into the revelation of who he is while vulnerably revealing who I am. If this happens too often, he will stop me and say, “I just want to be with you.”

When I get together with my closest friends or my beautiful family— it isn’t with any agenda except to be together. I love their presence, I love the sound of their voices, I love to look into their eyes, I love to touch them and to enjoy them. It brings rest and refreshing to us and it brings great joy to my life.

Many believers need to practice and re-learn intimacy with God. They need to find him as their closest friend and just be with him. They need to have conversations that aren’t about the next assignment but about family, dreams, exciting news and even personal struggles. I even like to ask Jesus about his family— “How are your kids?” He’s happy to share out of friendship and deep intimacy even more than out of a need for more information.

If this is speaking to your heart and you realize that you’ve been relating to God from a place of “ministry partner” more than intimate friend, then maybe this is what he is saying to you today,

“I just want to be with you. I want to hear your voice, listen as you share your heart, I want us to look into each others face, I want to laugh with you, cry with you and share myself with you.”

There is always time for learning from him and hearing what he is doing…that may even naturally flow out of your sharing intimate time together. But don’t make it the reason you come to him every time. Make a place in your life where no agendas, except time together, exist. Let him ask you about personal things and take time to answer him. Just because he already knows all that is in your heart and on your mind doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to spend time listening to you share it with him.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

Come as a friend— you will find rest, comfort and joy in his presence.


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4 responses to “I Just Want To Be With You”

  1. Aunt Kathi, this is so true and something God has shown me personally over the last year. For so long, most of the time I spent with Him was for some reason like getting an answer or praying for someone or something. But it was always hard to hear His voice. He says “You will hear a voice behind you telling you, this is the way” (Isaiah 30:21) but I didn’t know how to hear or recognize His voice.
    But over the past year, the majority of my time with Him has been just sitting with Him, telling Him about my day, just spilling everything. And three significant changes have happened. I no longer pray out of obligation, but because I genuinely desire to talk with Him. I can hear His voice so much better now because I know Him better and the more time you spend with someone, the more you begin to think like them. And I have had a unique type of joy because as I have spent time with Him, I have tangibly felt His furious love and tenderness for me personally, which has given me freedom from so many lies I didn’t even realize I was believing.

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    1. Oh Eliya!! That is so beautiful and wonderful. You are way ahead of most in this area. If we spent our formative years in Christ, merely developing relationship with him our latter years would be much more fruitful and joyful. Somehow he was able to teach me this in my 20’s— maybe because I’m “simple” and didn’t know any other way or just because of his love and mercy toward me. I often have to return to the “simple” which brings me back to first love. His voice is sweet and his ways are tender (yet fierce)— I desire to be so familiar with his movements and voice that they are always recognizable to me— yet not so familiar that I forget to tremble at his majesty. Hugs!


  2. This is a really important message, Kathi!   thank you, Heidi


    1. You are so very welcome 😊


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