Itโ€™s No Longer Time To Survive But Itโ€™s Time To Thrive

By Kathi Pelton

I often think that we arenโ€™t aware of when we begin living out of a ๐‘ ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘Ž๐‘™ ๐‘š๐‘–๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘ก. It is like an old default setting that was hardwired into our souls that we depend upon when things around us begin to be out of our ability to control them.

For me, I learned early on in life to be an expert at ๐‘ ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘”. This did not serve me well when it came to issues of surrender or intimacy because the thought behind every surviver mentality is that there is something bad and tragic to survive. And I had a lot happen that reinforced that belief.

In my early years of walking with Jesus, I began to understanding that I couldnโ€™t grow without letting go. I had to learn the difference between surviving and overcoming. Surviving kept me alive but didnโ€™t allow me to thrive because it was rooted in trauma and self-preservation. The kindness and love of fhe Father began to teach me that overcoming was what He desired which is rooted in dependency and trust; not in me or my self-preservation but in full surrender and yielding to Him alone.

This was not an overnight process because the hardwiring to survive and the expectation of being left alone was at my core. It was a process of facing frightening times and deep fears and choosing surrender rather than protection. I had to allow my heart to risk loving and being loved. Surviving put a lock on my heart but overcoming was to open that door ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘”๐‘œ ๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ ๐‘‘๐‘œ๐‘ค๐‘› ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž ๐ฝ๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘ข๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘š๐‘–๐‘‘๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘Ž ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘š.

I remember when my family brought a foster baby into our home. I could feel my heart falling deeply in love with this little boy. Somehow I knew deep inside that he was only โ€œon loanโ€œ to us. I had a choice- I could merely care for him and survive losing him or I could open my heart and give him all the love he deserved and I had wifhin me to give. So, knowing that my heart would face incredible loss I gave it fully to him. For four years I loved that little boy with everything in me. It was so beautiful! Most days Iโ€™d lay down with him during his nap time and just stare at him, pray for him and tears would often flow as I overcame what I knew was coming. Sure enough that day came but through the terrible pain I had no regrets because I hadnโ€™t held anything back. He would carry throughout his life all the love that Iโ€™d poured into him even if he didnโ€™t remember me. And I would always have the memory and beauty of four years of loving the sweetest little boy. Itโ€™s been six years since then and I have no regrets. I learned to overcome so that I could experience deep intimacy rather than merely survive and experience only the shallow places.

There is a healing that is being offered by the Father that takes your hand and walks you into the deeper waters of surrender and trust so that you can experience the fullness of beauty, intimacy and encounter. Will pain still come? Yes, but you wonโ€™t merely survive pain but thrive in the midst of pain. Surrender has been the greatest gift because it allows me to ๐‘™๐‘’๐‘ก ๐‘”๐‘œ!
In that place I find that I experience being held by the arms of my God when I feel like pain leaves me unable to breathe. His love and intimate presence becomes my breath and my overcoming strength. It is then that I thrive!

My life is so much richer from having loved when loss was a high risk. Iโ€™ve done that many times now. Actually, all earthly love (except for our love for Jesus) has that risk. But the choice is to self-preserve and hold back or to lay it all down and love fully knowing that the the ๐™Š๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™Ž๐™ช๐™ง๐™š ๐™‡๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š will carry us through the times of loss and pain. I have always gained far more then I lost when Iโ€™ve given all of me.

Itโ€™s time to give ๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™ ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข to the One who gave all of Him for you. Ask Him to reset you to the default of an overcomer not merely a survivor. Again, overcoming takes dependency, surrender and letting go of control. Itโ€™s so worth rhe cost!

Itโ€™s time to thrive while youโ€™re alive- not only survive. Holy Spirit come and do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. Help us to let go and find where you are in the midst of storms so that we can lay down with youโ€ฆ๐‘™๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘œ๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘’๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘š๐‘ .


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