It’s No Longer Time To Survive But It’s Time To Thrive

By Kathi Pelton

I often think that we aren’t aware of when we begin living out of a π‘ π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘£π‘–π‘£π‘Žπ‘™ π‘šπ‘–π‘›π‘‘π‘ π‘’π‘‘. It is like an old default setting that was hardwired into our souls that we depend upon when things around us begin to be out of our ability to control them.

For me, I learned early on in life to be an expert at π‘ π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘£π‘–π‘£π‘–π‘›π‘”. This did not serve me well when it came to issues of surrender or intimacy because the thought behind every surviver mentality is that there is something bad and tragic to survive. And I had a lot happen that reinforced that belief.

In my early years of walking with Jesus, I began to understanding that I couldn’t grow without letting go. I had to learn the difference between surviving and overcoming. Surviving kept me alive but didn’t allow me to thrive because it was rooted in trauma and self-preservation. The kindness and love of fhe Father began to teach me that overcoming was what He desired which is rooted in dependency and trust; not in me or my self-preservation but in full surrender and yielding to Him alone.

This was not an overnight process because the hardwiring to survive and the expectation of being left alone was at my core. It was a process of facing frightening times and deep fears and choosing surrender rather than protection. I had to allow my heart to risk loving and being loved. Surviving put a lock on my heart but overcoming was to open that door π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘”π‘œ π‘™π‘Žπ‘¦ π‘‘π‘œπ‘€π‘› π‘€π‘–π‘‘β„Ž 𝐽𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑠 𝑖𝑛 π‘‘β„Žπ‘’ π‘šπ‘–π‘‘π‘ π‘‘ π‘œπ‘“ π‘Ž π‘ π‘‘π‘œπ‘Ÿπ‘š.

I remember when my family brought a foster baby into our home. I could feel my heart falling deeply in love with this little boy. Somehow I knew deep inside that he was only β€œon loanβ€œ to us. I had a choice- I could merely care for him and survive losing him or I could open my heart and give him all the love he deserved and I had wifhin me to give. So, knowing that my heart would face incredible loss I gave it fully to him. For four years I loved that little boy with everything in me. It was so beautiful! Most days I’d lay down with him during his nap time and just stare at him, pray for him and tears would often flow as I overcame what I knew was coming. Sure enough that day came but through the terrible pain I had no regrets because I hadn’t held anything back. He would carry throughout his life all the love that I’d poured into him even if he didn’t remember me. And I would always have the memory and beauty of four years of loving the sweetest little boy. It’s been six years since then and I have no regrets. I learned to overcome so that I could experience deep intimacy rather than merely survive and experience only the shallow places.

There is a healing that is being offered by the Father that takes your hand and walks you into the deeper waters of surrender and trust so that you can experience the fullness of beauty, intimacy and encounter. Will pain still come? Yes, but you won’t merely survive pain but thrive in the midst of pain. Surrender has been the greatest gift because it allows me to 𝑙𝑒𝑑 π‘”π‘œ!
In that place I find that I experience being held by the arms of my God when I feel like pain leaves me unable to breathe. His love and intimate presence becomes my breath and my overcoming strength. It is then that I thrive!

My life is so much richer from having loved when loss was a high risk. I’ve done that many times now. Actually, all earthly love (except for our love for Jesus) has that risk. But the choice is to self-preserve and hold back or to lay it all down and love fully knowing that the the π™Šπ™£π™š π™Žπ™ͺπ™§π™š π™‡π™€π™«π™š will carry us through the times of loss and pain. I have always gained far more then I lost when I’ve given all of me.

It’s time to give π‘Žπ‘™π‘™ π‘œπ‘“ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’ to the One who gave all of Him for you. Ask Him to reset you to the default of an overcomer not merely a survivor. Again, overcoming takes dependency, surrender and letting go of control. It’s so worth rhe cost!

It’s time to thrive while you’re alive- not only survive. Holy Spirit come and do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. Help us to let go and find where you are in the midst of storms so that we can lay down with youβ€¦π‘™π‘’π‘Žπ‘›π‘–π‘›π‘” π‘œπ‘› π‘‘β„Žπ‘’ π‘’π‘£π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘™π‘Žπ‘ π‘‘π‘–π‘›π‘” π‘Žπ‘Ÿπ‘šπ‘ .

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It’s Time to Thrive: A Prophetic Picture That Will Set Many Free

Kathi Pelton

Over the past month I have been following a story on Facebook regarding a newborn that was having a hard time thriving. He had not been thriving in his growth, he was experiencing severe reflux and was losing weight even after nursing for hours and hours each day. After many trips to the doctors (with no clear answers), this week their newborn received his breakthrough when it was discovered that he had a β€œtongue tie” and β€œlip tie”.

This is a condition that restricts an infants tongue and/or lip from moving freely due to the frenulums (the small fold of tissue that restricts or secures the lip or tongue). A five minute procedure corrected this condition and now her baby can nurse without restriction. He can thrive!

As I saw the resolution of this story today, the Spirit showed me that there is an β€œall too common” spiritual condition that needs to be diagnosed and resolved that mirrors this physical condition called β€œTongue Tie” or β€œLip Tie”. It is an assignment that prevents His sons and daughters from thriving, from growing and from being able to receive what they need spiritually to grow.

I also saw it sent against those who have been anointing to release their voice (through speaking or singing) by tying their tongue and lips with a β€œfear that restricts them.”

If this is you or someone that you know then know that God is about to set you free! Just as the physical treatment for this condition is an easy fix, it is also an easy fix for our Great Physician. It is time to be free from this restriction that has held you down and kept you from thriving.

Pray with me,

β€œFather, thank you that You have created me to thrive, to grow and to have every part of who I am function without restriction. I break the assignment against my life of being spiritually tongue tied and lip tied. I receive the touch of Your Spirit that loosens my mouth to feed from Your Word, to drink of Your goodness and to grow in Your love. I reject every and all assignments against my life and my mouth to restrict me from thriving. I break the assignment of fear sent against my mouth that prevents me from speaking or singing freely. I declare that all assignments linked to the spiritual condition of being tongue tied or lip tied are canceled, revoked and broken now in Jesus name.”

As a prophetic act begin to move your mouth! God is even now setting you from free from this assignment and condition. Begin to use your voice to rejoice and declare your freedom.


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