He Sets the Lonely in Families

Kathi Pelton

I awoke in the wee hours of the morning and had these words rushing through my entire being,

“God sets the lonely in families…”

Psalm 68:6

The words washed over me like a cool breeze on a hot day and like water to a thirsty soul. I could hear the cries of the lonely; longing to be placed in true family. It was the cry of the sinners and the cry of the saints followed by the tender yet passionate response of the Father saying, 

“I have heard your cry, I have seen your loneliness and I am preparing a family for you.” 

Then I saw Him command angel to go and appoint true fathers and mothers, sons and daughters to be fruitful and multiply. The angels were bringing the resources, the support, clearing the way and placing apostolic mantels on those who would be instrumental in releasing the true heart of the Father everywhere they were sent. 

As I saw true families created and the lonely placed within them it became fertile soil for a restoration. Hearts were restored, relationships were restored, honor was restored, hope was restored and even giftings were restored because they were protected and nurtured by the love of family. 

As a young believer I was often in atmospheres that were “gift” driven but the true longing of my soul was for family. My gift was often noticed far before who I really was; His daughter. This created a performance based belief were I thought that “I am my gift” and that is the measure of my value in the body of Christ. God refused to leave me in that place and nurtured me in ways that restored me to my true identity of “daughter”. 

Within family gifts flow without jostling one another or competing with one another. Within family there is rejoicing by all when one succeeds and weeping by all when one falls down. All are honored and all are celebrated and no one is forgotten.

When my family set out on our first missions journey, leaving our home and country, we asked each of our young children what Jesus was saying to them as we set off together. Our youngest son, Jonathan David (who was six year old at that time), turned to us with boldness and said these words,

“Mommy, Jesus said to me the word, ‘Ohana’. Ohana means family and family means that no one gets left behind.” 

He had learned the Hawaiian word “Ohana” (which means family) from a Disney movie and the Spirit sweetly spoke to our six year old in a language that he would understand. This word is still today the sweetest word that has ever been spoken to me. It is the true word of the Lord.

Family is the longing of God’s heart. It is the reason for creation and it is the true inheritance of Jesus. It is the root of unity (John 17:20-23) and it is the target of all of the enemies activity. 

The Father hears your cry for a family. He longs for all of His children to be nurtured within the safety of family. He intends for all of His disciples to first be sons and daughters; because then they will reproduce sons and daughters. 

I believe that the reformation that is coming upon the church worldwide will first and foremost be identified by “family”. It will be marked by true fathers, mothers, sons and daughters that are being fruitful and multiplying fathers, mothers, sons and daughters…the generations walking together; celebrating and honoring all. 

I will finish this by declaring the words that the Spirit spoke to my young son. May they be added to your life,


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